Excuses or Priorities?
How you choose to spend your time defines your priorities.
Whether you say so or not, your priorities are where you choose to spend your time.
Do you live every day in that small, safe place? Always settling for less life than you are so capable of creating and living? What about the experiences you only keep wishing you could have? But excuse after excuse in your own thought patterns keep holding you back from jumping through that paper wall that seems to be blocking your way…when you can see on the other side what could be your best life. Yes, I said paper.
Are you ready to be done with those roadblocks? If not, may you’re OK with the price you’re paying every year, for continuing to put off making any change or taking even just one chance to pursue the passion that makes your heart race.
You only get one life
Learn how you can be bigger than any of your excuses. What you want most, what you envision really can happen.
You know the old saying…
If you want to do something badly enough, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse. It really IS as simple as that.
Stop Making Excuses for Who You Are
We all realize that excuses are really just masterfully designed justifications we tell ourselves, and anyone else who will listen, to rationalize our actions or, more likely, our IN-action. Let’s face it, there will always be an abundance of readily available reasons to justify the way you choose to live life and why you’re unable to improve it.
You are busy. You haven’t done it before. You are not as young as you once were, you don’t have the support you wish you had. It is difficult. What if you fall? What if you fail? Maybe you’ll hurt your pride for a minute. Oh well…
The Inconvenient Truth of Excuses
You know what? The inconvenient truth of any excuse is that the quality of your life is molded by the quality of your excuses. If you’re like everyone else, most of the excuses you’ve been making are simply ways to cover up for the fact that you really don’t want to do something or you’re really just afraid that if you try, it won’t work out and you’ll feel like a loser. Am I right? We are going to turn that around! I PROMISE! Those excuses can be the little lies and reasoning we make to ourselves to avoid the actual work of creating and living a better life. You and I know both know that you are selling yourself short when you make excuses.
We’ve all said it before.
“I just don’t have enough time.” when life gets busy or when we don’t want to feel guilty about not doing something or going somewhere.
- If we don’t have enough time to work out, it’s easier for us to be okay with wheezing after a flight of stairs.
- If we don’t have enough time to prepare healthy meals, it’s easier to accept our next unhealthy meal through a drive-thru window. Then pay for medication later.
- If we don’t have enough time to clean the house, it’s easier to accept living in clutter and filth.
- If we don’t have time to apply for new jobs and make new connections, it’s easier to accept staying in a dead-end job or procrastinating getting one and live smaller.
What if you started today saying this…
Starting today, instead of saying: “I don’t have time.” Catch yourself and say, “It’s not a priority.” Learning this simple tactic has been HUGE in changing the way I think about my time.
Watch how your perspective shifts when looking at those same challenges this way:
- “I’d love to work out, I just don’t have time” becomes “exercising isn’t a priority.”
- “I’d love to eat healthier, but I don’t have time to cook” becomes “eating healthy isn’t a priority.”
- “I don’t have time to apply for a job becomes “Helping to support myself and my family and living better isn’t a priority.“
Suddenly, the excuse of time becomes an incredibly weak statement that even you don’t believe.
The real truth
As J.D. Roth, founder of Get Rich Slowly, stated during his talk at the World Domination Summit
“It’s not what we say is a priority, but what we actually DO that’s a priority.”
J.D. shared how he used to tell his friend, “oh I LOVE reading, I just don’t have time for it.” In reality, JD was just putting everything else in front of reading: watching TV, staying up late surfing the internet, and so on. Once he realized how he was prioritizing his life, he started analyzing where his precious time was going.
Time is our most precious resource. We all have 168 hours in a week.
It’s remarkable how much time you can find when you minimize the things that aren’t important to make room for the things that are.
Where do you spend your time? Just like any tracking system, keeping a daily food journal can be eye-opening. Try tracking your time over the next seven days in 30-minute blocks. How much time do you spend on the computer, watching TV, Social Media, etc.? You will probably be surprised! Of course, if you work from home, your computer time will be more priority time.
WOW Look at what you accomplished!!
- The 10 hours of TV each week become less important.
- The late nights on Facebook become more evident .
- Those unproductive hours spent sitting at your desk, “working” without actually WORKING become crystal clear.
It’s not what you say that’s important to you, it’s what you DO that’s important to you.
I know you can get a great workout in 20-30 minutes, so I refuse to accept ANYBODY telling me that they don’t have time to work out.
Listen to the excuses of truly successful people and one thing will stand out: They don’t make them. Instead, they OWN their choices and take full responsibility of the results that happen what they did or didn’t do.
The excuses I’ve used have all found their way back to me as JUST THAT, meaningless excuses! One excuse I have NEVER used and will never use, is that I am too old, or that my family never supports me. I know that anyone can make anything happen at any age. I also know that, even though I grew up with a mom and sister that stood behind me 110%, I understand there are people who don’t get that support and encouragement from spouses or other family members. Close your ears to them and make YOUR life happen. Then watch them follow. This is about YOU – making your life something spectacular and you should be able to include your loved ones.
Maybe you have NO idea how to start
When I started playing music full-time, living on the road, I had no idea where to start. I figured it out. This was way before the internet. I made it happen without computers, without social media and without cell phones. After all those years on the road (16+ years to be exact), when I decided in my early 40’s to get back into fitness, I wasn’t sure where to begin since it had been so long. I figured that out because I had no excuses and not reason not to do it. I always made things happen that were my passions. I can’t live any other way. Even in those times of doing what I HAD to do, I still did what I longed and needed to do.
I gave myself permission. After a few years, I owned and operated a Martial Arts/Fitness Center. I put my band back together with new members. There are so many things I decided I could do, because excuses would never let me see the joy and light of living the way I want to live.
A Problem You Probably Already Thought About
Most people would have accepted any excuse I might have made for not pursuing the life of a traveling singer/musician, living in hotels traveling from city to city, state to state, country to country. Those same people would have also accepted any excuse I made for not opening up the Martial Arts/fitness school. Yes, I had to relearn and study and get certified and all that goes along with it. But doing the work makes the reward sweeter, always.
And oh yes, you will always find those well-meaning people to back up your excuses. Even the ridiculous ones. But those people will never be the trailblazers, the change makers and go-getters and entrepreneurs. Nope, the people who will back up your excuses are the ones who have well-worn excuses themselves to explain their lot in life. They don’t want to imagine you being successful because they have no idea what that means, and it might mean leaving them behind.
LET’S GET STARTED!
If you’re not sure where to start, get out a pen and ask yourself these questions. From: Make Your Mark: A Guidebook for the Brave Hearted by Margie Warrell
- What is not working in my life right now or just isn’t as great as I’d like it to be?
- What excuses have I been making to justify and explain it?
- What’s the price I will pay if I keep trading in these excuses? (Lost opportunity cost, financial cost, relationship cost, physical cost, career cost, etc.)
- What is one powerful choice I can make right now that will move me powerfully into action? (e.g., I will set my alarm for 5 a.m. tomorrow and every day thereafter!)
Think about this…you only get one life, and delaying, procrastinating makes an increasing toll the longer you live that way. Don’t waste time and the best years of your life on excuses that keep you from your amazing REAL life. Be bigger than your best excuses. What you really want most in every part of your life, is depending on it… if you don’t, the time will still pass, then it’s gone and you have no more time.